a resource of songs about same-sex marriage

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From Then...

Le Couple

 

In the Spring of 1972 gay marriage was a big story, receiving wide coverage in The Advocate. It reported that Canada had what may be its first homosexual marriage, on February 26th, between singer and radio-television personality Michel Girouard, 27, and his accompanist, 25-year old Regeant Tremblay. That story was also Advocate front page news in March, and a few weeks later they got even more coverage, when they flew to Los Angeles to have their marriage solemnized by MCC's Reverend Troy Perry. This time The Advocate ran a several page interview, with lots of photos. Click to see those articles.

And why I'm working all this into a page on gay marriage music is that later in 1972, Girouard and Tremblay released an album making it all musically official. Released on a Canadian branch of the London label, it was titled "Le Couple," and featured cabaret type styling of songs (sung in French) written by Gilbert Becaud, Jacques Brel, Edith Piaf, among others.

Click to download "L'Hymne a L'Amour" download

Flash forward to 2004, and the issue of gay weddings and gay marriage is major news and, unfortunately, a political wedge used in Bush's election. But musically it's going strong, especially with the release of a double-CD set called "Marry Me." Released by Figjam Records, part of the proceeds will go to the ACLU's Lesbian & Gay Rights and AIDS Projects.

The lineup is stellar, at least in my estimation, as it features the best of our independent artists, and I believe it to be one of the best various artist compilations released in years. It would be difficult to single out artists, but my personal biases are going to allow it anyway, as I love that the set includes, in no particular order, Mark Weigle, The BootLICKERS, Ari Gold, Veronica Klaus, Yolanda, Daniel Cartier, Peter Donnelly, Bill Budd, Robin Renee...okay, gotta stop, just buy the CD...:)

...To Now

"Marry Me" poster

The artists and songs tabled below, represent most of the songs I could find that lyrically deal with the subject of gay marriage, and sometimes the interpretation is looser than others. Obviously the choices are often subjective. Some songs are very political, some funny, and some romantic. I'll be adding more as I acquire them, and if you can recommend some, please let me know. Click on the musical note next to each title to download the complete songs, or in some cases, a song clip. Lyrics for some of the songs appear on another page.

Back to the  Queer Music Heritage  home page.

For my June 2008 QMH Show I celebrated
songs about Gay Marriage, Click to Hear it!
Traci Adams

Traci Adams
"You Are Not God" download
from "You Are Not God"  (lyrics)
(West Coast Swing, 3:46, 2004)

Traci Adams
Jamie Anderson

Jamie Anderson
"A Love This True"
download     from "Listen"
(Tsunami Recordings 1030, 2:58, 2001)

and "Wedding Song" download  
from "Bad Hair Day"
(Tsunami Recordings 1004, 4:03, 1993)
www.JamieAnderson.com

Jamie Anderson

Sandy Baron
"Do You Take This Man?" download
from "God Save the Queens"
(A&M LP 598, 1:51, 1972)

not a song but a comedy skit, for history purposes only...gee, from 1972! to hear the rest of the album, see pics, and more Click Here

Jeffrey Beringer Jeffrey Beringer
"Tiki Tiki Tembo"
download
from "Raise Hell, Raise Babies"
(private CD, 4:12, 2003)
www.JeffreyBeringer.com
Jeffrey Beringer
BGMC

Boston Gay Men's Chorus
"Marry Us"
download   (clip)
(from "Best of the BGMC, Live, 3:36, 2004)
www.BGMC.org

BGMC Conductor Reuben Reynolds III

Norine Braun
"I Believe You"

CD single, 3:34, 2010
www.norinebraun.com
Watch the Video

 

Breathe from "Breathe"
"Song for Joy"
download
a Musical by Dan Martin & Michael Biello
(private CD, 5:39, 2005)
http://www.biellomartin.com/
available at http://cdbaby.com/cd/martinbiello
the only pic he gives out

Marc Bridge
"Same Sex Marriage"
download
(MP3, 2005, 3:11)

(okay, maybe this is not really "gay"
but it is funny...:)

Addie BrownleeAddie Brownlee

Addie Brownlee
"The Gay Marriage Song"
download
(MP3 download, 2006, 2:36)
www.AddieBrownlee.com

and at myspace.com

Russ Buchanan Russ Buchanan
"Love Chantey" download
(Midnight Graffiti Music CD EP, 2:10, 2004)
Donna Burke
"Wherever You Go"
download
from "Blue Nights" (Dag Music CD, 3:35, 2005)

Australian singer-songwriter Burke offered this song to this page, as it is
from the Book of Ruth 1:16,17 and is about one woman telling another that no matter where she goes or where she dies she will follow her.
Capitol Steps
"I Want A Guy Just Like the Guy
Who Married Dear Old Dad"
download
("Papa's Got a Brand New Bagdad," CS CD 1024, 1:23, 2004)
www.capsteps.com
Capitol Steps
Cheryl & JaVonne
"Waiting All My Life"
download (clip, 2010)
a digital single to raise funds for Marriage Equality
http://www.stoneymae.com/thank_you.html
Marry Me Chixie Dix (Hedda Lettuce & Yolanda)
"Marry Me"
download
from "Marry Me" (Various Artists)
(Figjam Records CD, 2:14, 2004)
www.FigJamRecords.com
Chixie Dix
Clevelanders Clevelanders (Phil Spitalny, leader;
Rodman Lewis, vocals; 1930)
"In My Little Hope Chest"
download
from "Can't Help Lovin' That Man"
(Columbia CD 52855, 1993, V.A.)..an accidental "gay" song
Can't Stop Lovin' That Man

 

No Image,

from Internet

Sarah Constable
"Same-Sex Marriage" download
from internet site, not released
Canadian, radio reporter, 2:50, 2004
"Soul Food" by Lynn Deeves

Lynn Deeves
"Some of My Best Friends"
download
from "Soul Food"
(private release, 6:02, 1997)
home page

Lynn Deeves
Thomas Donovan Thomas Donovan
"What Our Love Is Made Of" download
CD single, remixes, quicktime movie, (lyrics)
(private, 4:06, 2004)
www.ThomasDonovan.com
Thomas Donovan
Peter Donnelly Peter Donnelly
"Love With Me"
download
from "A Sure Thing" (4:22, 1998)
and "Marry Me" (2004, V.A.)  (lyrics)
not lyrically about a gay wedding,
but the perfect song to play at one
www.PeterDonnelly.com
Peter Donnelly
David Dub
"These Same Things" (demo) 
download
(self-produced, 2006, 3:22)
http://daviddubmusic.com/
Emma's Revolution Emma's Revolution
(Pat Humphries & Sandy O)
"This Love"
download
from "One"
(Big W Productions, 2004, 3:52)
www.EmmasRevolution.com
Pat & Sandy
Pamela Enders

Pamela Enders
"The Right to Love"  download
from CD single, Spring 2004, part, 1:04

http://www.jazzcabaretbypamela.com/

Pamela Enders
Estrogen

Estrogen
"If You Want To Be Happy" download
(demo, not released, 2:15, 2003)
comedy parody of Jimmy Soul song

 

Tori Fixx single & CD Tori Fixx
"Marry Me"
from the maxisingle "Marry Me"
download the x-rated version and the radio version, download the clean version
(A.C.R.O.N.Y.M 202, 3:45, 2004)
www.ToriFixx.com  four mixes available
Tori Fixx
Scott Free

Scott Free
"Battle Hymn of the Intolerant"
download
from "The Call Me Mr Free"  (lyrics)
(Leather/Western Rec., 2:20, 2004)
www.ScottFree.net

Scott Free
Steven Franz
"When Is It My Turn" download  and
"I Do" download  
from "Skins & Shirts"
(private release, 2008, 3:27 and 3:20)
www.StevenFranz.com
Steven and his handsome husband, RickSteven performing at the Outmusic Awards, where he was nominated for his debut CD in 2004
Tret Fure Tret Fure
"The Wedding Song"
download (clip)
from "My Shoes"
(Tomboy Girl Records 83102, 3:00, 2003)
www.TretFure.com
Tret & Jane
Gayco
"Gospel"
download
(from their site, 2005, 4:05)
www.gayco.com
Chicago sketch comedy troop
Green & Root

Green & Root
"Marrying You"
download
from "Down That Road" (lyrics)
(Cozy Goat Records, 3:18, 2004)
www.GreenAndRoot.com

Green & Root
Oded Gross
"It's All Because (the Gays Are Getting Married)"
download
(actor/comedian, 2008 demo, with video, from
his myspace page, 3:37)
satire blaming his failed marriage on "The Gays"
Dave Hall Dave Hall
"Biff 'N Tony's Wedding" download
from "Places"
(GiuseppeJoe Records 872, 3:28, 1999)
www.GiuseppeJoe.com
Dave Hall
Judith Hanlon "The Colors of Love" Judith Hanlon
"On My Honor"
download
from "Colors of Love" (lyrics/story)
vocals by V. Davis & J. Wheeler
(Passages Music CD, 2003, 3:15)
sheet music available
Judith Hanlon
Dan Hart
"Marry Me"
download
from "Santa God & Other Blasphemies"
(private CD, 2:39, 2005)
www.danhart.net
a bonus track on a comedy xmas CD
Heartland Mens Chorus Heartland Men's Chorus (Kansas City)
"I Do"
download (clip)
from "Heartland Pride"
(2004, written by Eric Lane Barnes)
www.hmckc.org
Joseph P. Nadeau, Musical Director
Hidden Cameras Hidden Cameras
"Ban Marriage" download
from "The Smell of Our Own"
(Rough Trade 83215, 4:20, 2003)
www.TheHiddenCameras.com
their 45 of "Ban Marriage"
Janis Ian Janis Ian
"Married In London"
download
(unreleased, free download from her site, 2006, 1:40)
Words & music by Janis Ian, c. Rude Girl Pub.
www.JanisIan.com
Colleen Jameson
"Revolution Now!" 
download
(self-produced demo, 2006, 3:38)

Elton John
"Chapel of Love" (clip)
download
("Four Weddings and a Funeral"
Soundtrack, London 828509, 1994)

Nedra Johnson
"Forever With Me"
download
from "Nedra"
(Big Mouth Girl CD 67271, 3:26, 2005)
www.NedraJohnson.com
Jody Kessler Jody Kessler
"Ballad of Chris and Pat"
download (clip)
from "No Solid Ground"
(CD, 5:34, 2000)
www.JodyKessler.com
Jody Kessler
Kinsey Sicks Kinsey Sicks
"Locked Out of the Chapel of Love" download
from "Sicks In The City"
(CD, 2:05, 2002)
www.KinseySicks.com
Kinsey Sicks
Roger Kuhn
"My Vow to You" download (clip)
(CD single, 2010)
http://www.worldofrogerkuhn.com
(written for his husband Sean, for their Oct 2009 wedding in Provincetown)
Melange Lavonne
"Marry me"
download (clip)
from "The Movement"
(ML & King CD, 4:48, 2008)
http://www.myspace.com/melangelavonne
and, click to hear her talk about the song (0:48)
download

Janice Leber

Janice Leber
"Goin' to Massachusetts with Love"
download
from "The Chopping of the President"
(Chopped Liver CD, 2:55, 2004)
www.ChoppedLiverProductions.com

Kristin Lems
"How Nice"
download (clip)
from "In the Out Door" (1981) and "Equality Road" (2007)
www.KristinLems.com

a historic song from a straight ally

Jenn Lindsay Jenn Lindsay
"Jill + Jill" download
from "The Best New York Horn"
private release, 3:33, 2004
and "Marry Me" (V.A., 2004)
www.jennlindsay.com

Jenn Lindsay
Linq Linq
"Don't You Understand" 
download
from "Journey"
private release, 3:17, 2004
www.LinqMusic.com
LinqLinq
Lovari
"Free to Love" (4:52)
download (clip)
Anti-Prop 8 song, 2008, featuring Lovari, Harmonica Sunbeam,
Scandelle, Geo Vaughn, Janifer and Bry'NT
http://www.myspace.com/Lovari
Mark Mercer Mark Mercer
"Chapel of Love"
download
from "Nothing Like It"
private release, 5:26, 2004
www.MarkMercerMusic.com
...definitely Not the Dixie Cups song
Mark Mercer
Lori Michaels
"The Right" (3:44)
download
"Unconditionally" (3:39)
download
from "Living My Life Out Loud"
(Reform Records, 2008)
www.LoriMichaelsProductions.com
Minna
"Love Shines" (4:09)
download
MP3 single, inspired by California's Prop 8, 2008
http://www.pixierevolution.com

Jeff Moxcey
"Who Gets to Throw the Garter" download
from "Lots of Moxcey"
(private release, political folk, 2:54, 2004)
www.cdbaby.com/cd/moxcey

from the musical "Oh My Godmother!"
"Old Fashioned Commitment Ceremony"
download  (clip)
(Written by Ron Lytle, Soundtrack, 2008)
http://www.ohmygodmother.com

Pro Homo Voci Pro Homo Voci
"Getting Married" 
download
from "It's a Queer, Queer, Queer, Queer World"
Music Director & co-writer: David Maddux
(private CD, choral, 1999, 4:00)
David Maddux site
David Maddux
Puttymeg Puttypeg (Maryl & Dominic)
"Wed in San Francisco"
download
(grassroots folk/protest song, 2:19, 2004) (lyrics)
David Raleigh
"I Do" download (clip)
from "Beginning Again"
(private CD, 2010, 3:14)
www.davidraleigh.com
Robin Renee Robin Renee
"My Bride" download
from "All Six Senses"
(Menage a Music 201, 4:24, 2002)
www.RobinRenee.com
Robin Renee
Jimmy Roland
"Partners for Life" 
download (clip)
(CD single, 2006, 5:14)
myspace.com site
Ron Romanovsky
"The Sanctity of Marriage" 
download
from "Turn Up the Fun," 2008, 2:55)
http://www.romanovskyandphillips.com
Ron Romanovsky & Paul Phillips, 2003
Rachel Romanowski
"Marry My Girlfriend"
download (clip)
MP3 single, 2008, 4:06
www.RachelRomanowski.com

Tokyo Rosenthal
"Love Won Out" 
download (clip)
(from "Love Won Out," 2008, 3:16)
http://www.tokyorosenthal.com
and video at YouTube
Roy, the band Roy
"Never Getting Married"
download
from "Big City Sin"
(Fueled by Ramon 65, 4:11, 2004)
www.RoyTheBand.com
(openly gay lead singer Brian Cook)
Roy
RuPaul RuPaul
"Love Is Love"
download
from "Red Hot" and "Marry Me"
(private release, 3:03, 2004)  (lyrics)
www.RuPaul.com
Marry Me comp
SFGMC San Francisco Gay Men's Chorus
"Marry Us"
download
from "Naked Man"
(SFGMC-7-96, 4:13, 1996)
www.SFGMC.org and, from radio coverage, "Chapel of Love"
"Blue State Liberal" by Pat Scanlon Pat Scanlon
"My Friends Are Getting Married Today"
download
(from "Blue State Liberal," 2005, 3:07)
www.PatScanlon.com
straight artist, produced by Willie Sordillo
Pat Scanlon
Jack Schell
"The Gay Wedding Song"
download (clip)
digital single, 2008, instrumental
http://www.thesoundweaver.com

Created in support of gay marriage rights, and
available at digital sites like itunes, Amazon, etc
Second Union CD EP Second Union (Dave Bastien & Susan Van Ham)
"It's About Time" download  (clip)
"Song for Senators" download  (clip)
from 3-song CD EP "Songs for Equality"
private release, 2004
www.SecondUnionMusic.com
Maryann & Ron Sfarzo Maryann & Ron Sfarzo
"I Do" download
(CD single, 3:10, 2004)
http://ido.sfarzoproductions.com
logo

John Paul Sharp
"Battle Over Love"
download
from "We've Got Problems!
    (But We're Doing OK)"
www.JohnPaulSharp.com
(JPS Records, 4:04, 2005)

Doug Stevens & the Outband Doug Stevens & the Outband
"Miracle In White"
download
from "From Christopher to Castro"
(Red Hill Records, 3:39, 2000) 
http://cdbaby.com/cd/dougstevens2
Marsha Stevens
"Wherever You Go"
download
from "You Called Us Good"
(Balm Ministries, 3:35, 2005)
www.BalmMinistries.com
Rex Strother

Rex Strother
"Sneakin' in the Back Door of Love"
download
(internet mp3 only, 2:17, 2004, straight artist)
www.SameSexMarriage.ca

(to the tune of "Chapel of Love")

Talmon & Slawn
"It's Just Been Too Many Years"
download
(TS Originals, 2008, 5:00, clip)
http://www.lgbtoriginals.com/
sung by Denny Slawn, who wrote it with Inga Talmon. Denny and his wife live in North Carolina much of the time.
"Ten Percent Revue" "Ten Percent Revue"
"Wedding Song"
download
from "Ten Percent Revue" soundtrack
(Aboveground Records CD 105, 2:19, 1987)
Tom Wilson Weinberg website
JD Doyle & Tom Wilson Weinberg, June 2004
Therapy Sisters

Lisa Rogers, of The Therapy Sisters
"Tying the Knot in Vermont" 
download
and "Holy Matrimony, Robin"
download
from "Let's Put a Folksinger in the White House"
(private CD, 2:37 and 0:37, 2004)
www.TheTherapySisters.com

Lisa Rogers
The Wedding Party
"From the Heart" Website
This compilation of 18 songs by various artists is an expression of support and solidarity for equal rights for marriage. While none of the songs deal lyrically with gay marriage, it uses a number of interview clips for the intros for the songs. The clips speak out for the right for all people to marry. Artists include Lisa Jackson, Justin Tranter, Sean Wiggins and Dare2B Diffrent.
Wed-Rock: A Benefit for Freedom to Marry
(www.centaurmusic.com, 2006)
The closest to a "wedding" song on this concert CD is Alan Cumming's version of "Married," but that wasn't the point of this release....its purpose was to raise funds for freedomtomarry.org, and the 2004 concert featured Lou Reed, Lady Bunny, Le Tigre, Margaret Cho, Bob Mould, Sandra Berhhard, Ben Jelen, Moby, Sleater-Kinney and John Cameron Mitchell.
Lucie Blue Tremblay Lucie Blue Tremblay
(Maggie & Shanti Musique CD 1007, 2004)
www.LucieBlueTremblay.com
no songs specifically about gay marriage but in general it celebrates the theme
Lucie Blue Tremblay and pooch
"Underdog" by Wishing Chair Wishing Chair
"Outlaw Wedding" 
download
from "Underdog"
(Terrakin CD 007, 2005, 4:07)
www.WishingChair.com
Miriam Davidson & Kiya Heartwood
Marry Me comp Yolanda
"You and I (Marry Me)"
download
from "Marry Me" (Various Artists)
(Figjam Records, 4:37, 2004)
www.Yolanda.net
Yolanda

Roy Zimmerman
"Defenders of Marriage"
download
from "Comic Sutra" & "Faulty Intelligence"
Check out the (lyrics)
(first on Metaphor Records 915, 2:10, 1998)
www.RoyZimmerman.com
Last alphabetically but perhaps the best song of all

Roy Zimmerman

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Links

Human Rights Campaign

RainbowWeddingNetwork.com

GayWeddingValues.com

The Argument for and Against Gay Marriage

12 Reasons Same-Sex Marriage will Ruin Society

Same-Sex Marriage (Canada)

Two Grooms and Two Brides

Gay Marriage: The Arguments and the Motives

Partners Task Force for L&G Couples

GayVan.Com

Other Links

Below is an article from a 1867 newspaper about a woman-to-woman marriage,
from an eBay ad, and i've reprinted the dealer's description of it

A WONDERFULLY SCANDALOUS NEWSPAPER STORY PRINTED IN THE 'WEEKLY PATRIOT UNION', HARRISBURG, PA. OCTOBER 24, 1867.  ON TO THE ARTICLE OF INTEREST ........ THE ARTICLE TITLED "WOMAN MARRIES WOMAN".  "A PERSON WAS BROUGHT BEFORE THE POLICE COURT AT SYRACUSE THE OTHER DAY ON A CHARGE OF WEARING MALE APPAREL WHILE BEING A FEMALE / OF MAKING LOVE TO THE SYRACUSE BELLES ON FALSE PRETENSES / AND OF MARRYING A WOMAN."  THE FORWARD-THINKING FATHER-IN-LAW, TOOK THE OPINION "IF SHE IS SATISFIED, WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE?" 

THE ARRESTED WOMAN WAS "COMMITTED FOR FURTHER EXAMINATION." WHEN ASKED WHAT SEX SHE WAS, SHE ANSWERED, "YOUR OFFICERS CAN TELL YOU."  HERE IS A "LEGAL" MARRIAGE PERFORMED BETWEEN TWO WOMEN ... I WONDER WHAT BECAME OF THEM?  I BELIEVE THIS IS THE EARLIEST, KNOWN, LEGAL MARRIAGE OF TWO WOMEN (ALTHOUGH UNDER FALSE PRETENSES) PERFORMED IN THE UNITED STATES.